A Woman and Her Adventures

Someone else's talent doesn’t diminish my own. There is such a thing as working too hard. Success doesn’t always come packaged the way they sold it to me at school. Truly not caring what other people think about me lifted a weight off my shoulders. It’s ok to dislike someone for apparently no reason. Some people don’t click.  It’s ok for someone to dislike me for apparently no reason. Disliking someone doesn’t mean you should treat them badly. Singing (no matter how badly) is good for the soul. If you leave tiny worries in your head too long your brain WILL catastrophize and it will get out of hand. Just spit it out! Someone can help you. If you put kindness out into the world it will come back to you. The phrase ‘you always think your right’ is stupid. Of course I think I’m right. If I didn’t I wouldn’t be saying it! But I’m always happy to be proven wrong.  Failure is a temporary state.  If you’re an adult who doesn’t like hot drinks people get suspicious.  If what

“All I want you to do is everyday, get out of bed, make it, shower, put on clean Pyjamas and if you want to get straight back in, do it”   This was the advice given to me when I was in a place where even getting out of bed felt like a mountain to climb. But I tried to follow this advice. Some days I only changed my pjs but it was more than before. it achieved two things. Firstly, it was an act that was solely for me with no obligations or expectations attached. Secondly believe it or not it gave me a sense of achievement. Even if this was all I could manage that day I’d achieved something. This was an act of self care- any act you consciously chose to carry out to care for your mental, emotional or physical health. I’m now in a better place mentally but I try and practice self care daily to help maintain positive mental health.  You see by practicing self care I’m building a positive relationship with myself. I’m acknowledging that I am worthy of time, love,

A long 5 year trudge and I ALMOST have a degree. In one months time I will take my last exam and be walking out the door into the world. Though it has been 5 years of hard work, failure, new jobs, declining mental health and losing myself it hasn’t been all bad. I had some great times along the way, met amazing people and have learned so much about facing the world. Though some people might think of anyone leaving university as the idle, avocado eating, ever travelling, forever living at home millenial. An offensive stereotype. My experience has been very different. I left home and moved across the country at 18 to attend university. My student loan covered my accommodation. That was it. So I got a job working at events as part of the stewarding team. No European gallivanting for me. Through my time at university I worked 30 hour weeks in many different sectors whilst attending lectures and doing coursework. Looking back this was to my detriment in terms of my degree but has se